Get Over Yourself! I’m Horrible at Connecting. What Does “get over yourself” have to do With Connecting!

My husband and I are dedicated to reading, Bible study, and prayer for at least a half an hour every morning.  It is what gets us started and keeps us going throughout the day.  We have been reading John Maxwell’s book “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect” and it has been eye opening.   We both thought that we were pretty good communicators, but we are finding out that we could use some improvement in the area of connecting.

I had to literally get over myself.  For years I had a horrible time connecting because of my past.  I had to think outside myself to get over the old scripts and limiting beliefs that played over and over in my head for years.  I was so surprised when John Maxwell said in his book, “You have to get over yourself.  You have to change the focus from inward to outward, off of yourself and onto others.”  If you want to be a good at connecting with others it has to be all about them. 

One of the biggest issues that stop us from connecting is immaturity.  I have a beautiful little granddaughter that is six months old.  Her life is all about her.  She only thinks of herself.  She needs to be fed, changed, clothed, burped, and put to bed.  She can’t walk, talk or do anything for herself.  That’s Ok for a six month old.  That is what we expect from them.  We don’t say to her “get over yourself” at that age because it is physically and emotionally impossible for her to do anything for herself.

But as she matures we will expect more from her.  She will have more and more responsibility for herself until she reaches adulthood where she will be completely responsible for herself and all of her actions. 

However we can become physically mature and still be emotionally immature.  I think this is the problem that most of us have.  An emotionally mature person will care about others when someone who is emotionally immature will only care about themselves.  In order to be a good connecter you have to change your focus from inward to outward, off of yourself and onto others.  The thing is anyone can do this.  You have to have the determination to learn a set of skills to change the way you communicate.

If you need to become a better connecter get over yourself, let me help you.  Do you have something nagging at you telling you that you are NOT fulfilling the purpose you we put on Earth? I want to help you.  I want to help 10 people fulfill their purpose in 2016.  You must go through a qualification process. If you want to see if you qualify go here and sign up.  I want to connect with you about your dreams and see if you are one of those who I will work with to take your life to its purpose.