Get Over Yourself, You Need to Listen to Sell, So Get Over Yourself

It is our natural instinct not to listen to people when they are talking.  The reason is our brains work a whole lot faster than people talk.  We tend to tune them out, let our mind wander, and only hear a portion of what they say.  We also filter our listening through our already programmed brains so that we only hear what we want to hear not what the person is actually saying. 

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and they just weren’t hearing what you were saying?  Chances are they were filtering what you were saying past their programmed brains and it wasn’t be filtered properly.  That’s what could be happening.  So you just need to get over yourself and realize that many people will not hear you because they aren’t receiving the message that you are putting out.

One of my pet peeves is people that interrupt.  So many people will interrupt you while you are speaking.  I hate that.  It is rude and shows a lack of respect.  I think we do that more and more because of social media.  When you are on facebook you can give your opinion on almost any subject without fear.  We now want to interject an opinion on a subject before the person is even done talking!

How can you have better conversations and make more sales?  Listen more!  The person that is the best sales person doesn’t speak as much as he listens.  It’s the truth. So we now need to be active listeners to listen for when someone is telling us their pain and how we can sell them.  It’s much different than just verbally vomiting on someone about your product, service, or compensation plan. 

How do you listen actively?  The first thing that you need to do is change the way YOU filter what people say to you.  That means you listen to CD’s, read books, and do things that help you have a more positive attitude.  Then you need to watch the way you speak.  We will listen the way we speak.  We speak according to our attitude.  Then we need to actively listen to what someone else is saying.  In other words, get over yourself, stop talking and listen to others talk.

The last, and probably the most important thing you need to do is stop being so critical.  People love to have others listen to them.  And they love to know that they can talk to someone who won’t be critical.  Even if you don’t like what they are saying you need to get over yourself and not come back with critical remarks about the issues they bring up.  You don’t know their past and their experiences so just shut up and listen.

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